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Elton John and I agree on Marriage and Civil Partnerships

ej1The other day I took a poll and in my blog I stated that I thought that California’s Proposition 8 failed because there are those who want to protect marriage as being between a man and a woman. There were comments explaining why the writers felt that marriage should be between any sex. I disagreed but it appeared that perhaps my idea of everyone making a compromise with unions that were between anyone besides a man and a woman could be called something else. Simple, yes. But evidently not satisfactory to those who commented.

I don’t always agree with things Elton John comes up with, but I think he stated it well when interviewed at Tuesday’s annual benefit for the Elton John AIDS Foundation held in New York.

“We’re not married. Let’s get that right. We have a civil partnership. What is wrong with Proposition 8 is that they went for marriage. Marriage is going to put a lot of people off, the word marriage.”

“I don’t want to be married. I’m very happy with a civil partnership. If gay people want to get married, or get together, they should have a civil partnership,” John says. “The word ‘marriage,’ I think, puts a lot of people off.

“You get the same equal rights that we do when we have a civil partnership. Heterosexual people get married. We can have civil partnerships.”

Perhaps everyone can’t have the same thing, or we don’t need the same thing. We women could protest that we want everything that men have – and then what in the heck would we do with urinals in our restrooms?

November 18, 2008 Posted by | Favorite Sites, The News | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Veterans Day 2008

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To each and every person who has served our country and those who still are, whether in peacetime or in wartime –

I THANK YOU!

November 11, 2008 Posted by | Favorite Sites, Personal/Family | , , , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Should Gays be Allowed to Marry or Something Else?

There is so much controversy over California’s recent Proposition 8 which bans gay marriage. The Mormon Church and other churches especially worked very hard to be sure that the proposition passed.

Now gay activists are angry. They don’t want gays to be discriminated against. Gay people want straight people to be more tolerant and understanding and are taking this personally. All they want is to have the same rights as anyone else – the freedom to marry their life partners.

I think a lot of people voted yes for this proposition because they were angry that they had already voted once and had their votes overturned by the courts. I think that gays should be more tolerant of that fact and realize that if it were to happen again, it could be a reverse situation where their vote was dismissed.

Also, I think gays aren’t trying to understand the other side where people just want to keep marriage sacred and between a man and a woman.

But, I also understand that gay people just want to be a part of the mainstream, live normal lives and dedicate their lives to their life partners. They want it legal and they want it to also be a sacred union.

This is the part that I’m not understanding. Instead of forming sides and fighting over this, why can’t there be a compromise? Why can’t someone come up with a plan that gives gays the right to marry but just change the word? I won’t be so arrogant as to suggest the phrasing. But then there would be no problem. Please try to understand that some of us who have always heard the word “wife” or “husband” applied to a woman and a man. It’s not easy to give that up. Do those words and marriage and wedding have to be the same? I would truly think that they would want their own words. “His husband” and “her wife” sound so awkward to me.

I would think that since this is such a special uniting that there could be some terminology applied that would be as sacred and special to gays that they would be insulted if a man and a woman tried to have that kind of ceremony and coupling. We’ve always heard that there are a lot of creative gays, surely they can come together and come up with their own uniting ceremony and terminology.

I’m probably naive but to me, it’s basically an issue about words. Someone needs a plan. I think gays would get the vote if those who have thought one way their entire lives, wouldn’t feel that their own institutions were being threatened. Take our poll to find out.

There are always going to be those who think that gays are self created and are against them. And, I doubt you’re going to change their minds. But you’re also going to find that there were many who voted yes on Proposition 8 – not to take away gay rights but to preserve their own traditional values, and to let the judges and courts know that their votes count.

November 11, 2008 Posted by | Personal/Family | , , , , , | 6 Comments

I got to design Flip Minos. Very Cool.

As a designer, I love to put my silly, fun artwork on all sorts of products. I have shops at cafepress.com and something new is always coming out. This is the latest thing I get to “play” with – the incredible Flip Mini – the tiny camcorder.

Check them out on my site – bysandra.com.

These are wonderful as gifts for special friends and families.

Flip Mino Camcorders designed by Sandra

Flip Mino Camcorders designed by Sandra

November 2, 2008 Posted by | Favorite Sites, My Designs | , , , , | 2 Comments